Ten Steps to Positivity #3: Know what makes you happy... and schedule it in!

Of course, unscheduled, surprising moments of happiness are fantastic!  We all love them.  But if we have a busy life, family and work commitments, it's easy to be so focussed on dealing with the daily dramas that we miss spontaneous opportunities to be happy.

By understanding what makes you happy and committing time to these activities, you are taking control of your own happiness levels and ensuring that no matter what unplanned challenges you may be facing, you will still take time out to prioritise your needs and your happiness.  This is not being selfish, this is making sure you are in the best shape possible when dealing with work and family.

What would your happy list look like?  Some things may only take a few minutes - listening your favourite feel good song?  Starting to plan your next holiday?  Others - like spending the evening with friends - take a bit longer.   For me, starting the day listening to 80s cheesy music is a great way of making sure I am in control of my mood from the start. 

Get into the habit of planning your happiness activities for the next day before you go to sleep.  Imagine how happy the activity is going to make you - and remind yourself when you wake up what you have committed to doing.  It doesn't have to take hours and will make a big impact on your levels of positivity. 

 

Choose Happy!

'The average person's happiness if FAR BELOW what it could potentially be.'  Dr Michael Fordyce

There is a growing amount of research around happiness and positivity showing that happiness is not something that just happens but something which we can choose and consciously work on improving.   Our levels of positivity depend on three elements:  genetics play a large part and influence our set 'happiness level'; external circumstances also play a significant role, however something called 'hedonic adaptation' means that sooner or later we return to our happiness set point.  Our thoughts and actions make up the third element and the one over which we have the most control.   Evidence shows the benefit of counting our blessings (cultivating gratitude regularly), meditating and visualising the great outcomes we are hoping for.  So the very act of just imagining your ideal future can make you happier!
   

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Do you know where you want to be? The importance of setting inspirational goals.

I loved this quote from Forbes magazine:  'So many of us walk and walk and walk, but find we’re never getting anywhere.  All along we wanted to be SOMEWHERE, but we never thought enough about where that should be. Where do you want to go? What do you want to achieve? Do you think about significance, or is the act of achieving a goal in itself? Who do you want to become? Who do you want to be tomorrow? What can you do to get there?' (Fairbrothers & Gorla: Forbes.com 29/11/11)

Do you know where you want to be?  Does it excite you?  Will you be thrilled when you get there?  Coaching is the perfect way of exploring your desires and helping you make them real. 

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What does your inner voice tell you?

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Are you aware of your inner voice?  We all have one....  normally it's what stops us trying new things or taking risks.  My inner voice sounds just like me, but a friend hears her mother's voice berating her and telling her she is not good enough to succeed.  Different authors refer to this voice with different terms... it might be your Inner Chimp, or your Chatterbox... I'm currently reading Tara Mohr's great book, Playing Big,  and she calls it the Inner Critic.   She gives loads of tips about how to live with the inner critic, which start with just becoming more aware of the voice, understanding it is a separate entity and we don't have to follow its advice.  I definitely found life a lot easier once I realised that I could change the voice into something much more positive!